How can I hold onto happiness?

zipnguyen
13 hours ago
2 min read

We often look at happiness as something we need to grip tightly, as if it might slip through our fingers the second we lose focus. As if one wrong step, one unexpected wave, one moment of doubt could make it disappear.

But what if happiness isn’t something to hold at all?

What if it’s something to move with?

Because the more we try to cling to happiness, the faster it dissolves. It wasn’t designed to be stored, preserved, or controlled. Happiness is an experience, not a possession.

And like any experience, it comes alive only when we’re present enough to feel it.

The people who feel the deepest joy are rarely the ones forcing life to be perfect. They’re the ones who allow happiness to exist without demanding it stay forever. They understand that happiness and sorrow are not opposites—they move together, teaching us, humbling us, guiding us back to ourselves.

Happiness isn’t a finish line to win and keep.

It's a reflection of our inner state—our clarity, alignment, and openness.

And when that inner world shifts, the quality of our joy shifts with it.

Happiness isn’t a fixed place to return to.

We are where it finds home.

When we stay rooted, happiness doesn’t feel like a fleeting moment. It becomes something that returns again and again, because it recognizes the space we’ve built for it.

When we stop outsourcing our joy or negotiating with life for permission to feel good, happiness naturally has a place to land. And even when it leaves—because it will—there’s no need to fear. It’s simply a reminder to realign, to return inward, to trust that it knows the way back.