How can I deal with rumors that aren’t true about me?
- 19 hours ago
- 2 min read
We say we want the truth, but do we really?
Or do we want the version of truth that plays in our favor, protects our ego, and validates what we already insist on believing?
Do we have a real appetite for the truth, or do we just like the idea of it until we have to take a bite?
The truth does not change its shape to fit the person looking at it. Some may see it as a square. Some may insist it is round. Others may walk in and declare, “You’re both wrong. It’s a triangle!” Some may repeat their version loudly enough that, for a moment, it feels as though the shape itself has changed.
Although… it never has.
Truth isn’t loud. It doesn't need to be 🤷🏻♀️
It is not the lie that gets repeated the most, not the story told by whoever wins the contest of talking about it the longest, not even the version we’re often told is “history written by the victors.”
The truth also does not care about who gets to be right. That is usually the ego's concern.
Perhaps that's why rumors can feel so unsettling.
Not because they bend the truth, but because they tempt us into fixing and defending it.
They tempt us into proving our reality, correcting every misunderstanding, and convincing people to see what we know to be true.
Beneath all of that is often something much deeper than a desire for accuracy.
It’s the desire to be understood.
Sometimes the hardest truth to accept is that not everyone is actually looking for the truth.
Personal interest. Validation. Entertainment. Comfort. Power. Money.
You name it.
Sometimes, people simply attach to the version that confirms what they already chose to see.
Do I think silence is always the answer? No.
Absolutely not.
Clarity matters. Speaking up is necessary. There are times when allowing a lie to continue causes real harm, and we must stop it.
But just remember that not every rumor deserves your entire nervous system. Not every misunderstanding deserves access to your peace. Not every person repeating something untrue is actually interested in what happened.
Have you ever noticed truth and ego move at very different speeds?
Ego wants resolution now.
Ego wants validation now.
Ego wants everyone to know — now.
But truth is patient.
Truth can afford to wait.
So let go of the expectation that everyone will see the same shape. And let the truth be the truth.
Stay rooted in it while the rumor runs its course.
You’ll see that the real work isn't how to convince everyone to eventually acknowledge it. It's whether you can remain grounded in it even if they don’t.
You can 🤍
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