How do I stop forcing and start flowing?

It’s logical to think that if we push harder, things are supposed to become easier, right?

But life doesn’t really work that way 🤷‍♀️

A kite doesn’t look at birds and complain that it doesn’t have wings. It doesn’t try to flap. It waits for the wind—because it knows that when the wind comes, it’s its turn to fly.

A bat doesn’t fight the sunlight, either. It doesn’t curse the day for being too bright. It rests. It conserves energy. It moves when night arrives—when the world finally speaks its language.

Neither is weak.

Neither is behind.

They’re simply aligned with their nature and their timing.

The ocean teaches this, too. When a wave rises, you have two choices: ride it, or dive under it. What doesn’t work is standing still and trying to push the wave back. That’s how you get knocked over, exhausted, and frustrated—not because the wave is wrong, but because you’re meeting it the wrong way.

Somewhere along the way, we’re taught that if things feel hard, it must mean we’re not doing enough. That strength meant pushing through every obstacle—forcing progress, forcing clarity, forcing outcomes. But forcing is often just resistance dressed up as effort.

What if all it’s asking for is deeper awareness?

Flow doesn’t mean avoiding obstacles.

It means choosing how to meet them.

Don’t confuse strain with strength. Like in yoga, there’s a difference between moving your energy into alignment and gripping so tightly that you forget how to breathe.

You can spend your energy fighting every obstacle, or you can invest it in building the solution that moves you forward.

One drains.

The other transforms.

Flow is about timing. It’s about knowing when to push, when to wait, when to rest, and when to rise. It’s about honoring your design instead of comparing it to someone else’s.

Not every moment is meant for flight.

Not every season is meant for visibility.

But when the wind comes, the kite rises effortlessly.

And when night falls, the bat moves with precision.

Ease isn’t about having fewer obstacles.

It’s about becoming wise enough to work with them.

And when we do, life stops feeling like something to conquer and starts feeling like something we’re finally moving in rhythm with ✨

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📍 W Edinburgh, Scotland, UK

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