Why am I taken for granted?
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It feels like there's a triple standard always applied to you.
Whatever you do, no matter how much you try, it's taken as if that's what you're supposed to do anyway. Meanwhile, others can do just enough or slightly more and get rewarded for it. When others fail upward, you somehow keep finding yourself carrying more.
It feels like all the love you give, all the care you provide, all the things you do without anyone asking become the very things that make you question whether you've been a fool the whole time.
If you were younger, you'd feel so upset.
Now, you just feel... hollow.
A void that no explanation seems big enough to fill. A sense of emptiness that makes you question why it keeps happening—not "is there something wrong with me?" or “why are people treating me like this?” but "what do I need to understand in order to dissolve this pattern?"
It’s not why you’re being taken for granted. It’s when you’ll stop extending so much empathy to those who may never meet you with the same care.
Because the uncomfortable truth is, it will keep happening for as long as you continue engaging in the same loop. It only changes when you stop expecting different outcomes from the same people.
Have you ever paid attention to the train? 🚆
When the train always arrives on time, barely anyone notices it. Many of us don’t even think about the train at all. If anything, we often only pay attention when it's late, when it's gone missing, or when we miss it ourselves.
Some people recognize what they've been taking for granted.
Some just blame the train.
Not everyone will go all the way to the last stop with you. A lot of people are meant to hop on and hop off in transit. Some make the ride enjoyable. Some throw trash on the train you're riding.
The passengers will sort themselves out.
Whether they catch the train on time or not isn't in your control. Whether they stay for one stop or twenty isn't in your control, either. What is in your control is the choice to continue moving toward the destination you’re meant for and be the kind of train that stays true to its own schedule.
Your job is to run the train, not manage everyone’s opinion of it.
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📍 W Edinburgh, Scotland, UK
🎶 Credit: Original Sound
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