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Let life be a ballad
I used to fear ballads, for they stirred emotions too deep in me. I used to fear dramas, for I had no reign over my tears. You know,...


Dear 2025 (Year of the Snake)
may i be like the moon this year casting light to dissolve fear guiding tides with a quiet sway whole as one, no matter what they say may i be like the sky this year hugging the stars, holding them dear rising so high, unbound and free a shelter of love for those who long to be may i be like the wind this year blowing away sadness, whispering cheer letting go of all with ease at peace i am, a gentle breeze may i be like bamboo this year standing tall as the storms draw near b


Goodbye, Year of the Dragon.
Thank you for all the unexpected lessons and invaluable guidance. For being tough yet incredibly patient. For giving me opportunities to step out of my comfort zone. For awakening parts of myself I didn’t know existed and expanding my consciousness in ways I couldn’t have imagined. Thank you for cheering me on as I transformed my relationship with myself. For bringing out the courage in me through your gentle nudges. For not stopping me from giving but teaching me how to give


Holiday Issue(s) 2025: How to find love and make it last
People say love comes when you stop looking. They also say it only shows up when you start looking. “But what if neither is true?” you...


What is intimacy?
What comes to mind when you hear the word "intimacy"? Is it the gentle touch tracing the curve of your neck? The unspoken conversation deciphered through a gaze? The half-formed sentence that doesn’t need to be completed? Or the waves of energy that suddenly pull you back into a shared space with someone you love? Intimacy is so much more than physical closeness—it’s an emotional, mental, and spiritual connection, transcending words and actions in ways that power can’t force


"You don’t understand women. They prefer it in person."
- How do you guys date nowadays? Are you just using the app? - Haha, I might not be the best person to answer that. But yeah, the app is...


Should I follow my heart or my mind?
Isn’t this the everyday dilemma we all face? Your mind thinks it’s too risky; your heart feels caged. Your mind says it knows what’s best in the long run; your heart insists it has to be now. Your mind tells you to walk away; your heart begs you to stay. Life is full of decisions: which major to choose, what career to pursue, who to marry, when to quit, how to respond—the list goes on and on. When the mind is bound by logic and the heart tangled in feelings, the soul transcen


How much giving is enough?
“Always give at least a little bit more than you have to.” That’s what I’ve been trying to remind myself ever since I wrote it down,...


How can I heal from a broken heart?
(“What if I lose the one I love?” - Part 2) Here you are, back at the same old crossroads again. Down the chosen path. Alone. Let the...


What if I lose the one I love?
Finding yourself at the intersection of a crossroads, you pause. Standing by your side is the one you’ve loved so deeply, and ahead are...


Why do I have to experience heartbreak?
It’s painful, I know. Be it romantic or platonic, heartbreak aches deeply. Sometimes it feels like we’ve lost everything. Sometimes, it feels like nothing at all. Sometimes ‘feeling’ itself becomes the scariest word. We shut down. We let it burst. We stay, even though every cell in our body wants to leave. We walk away, even when every shattered piece of our heart yearns to cling. We long to be more. More seen. More understood. More loved. Stronger. Happier. Better. We think


The most misunderstood love of all
Then one day, you stop denying the existence of this love. The kind of love that’s always there when you feel lonely and stuck. When...


"How do you teach them about surrender, though?"
- How do you teach them about surrender, though? They’re so young… My older boy wants to join the military, and it’s been really hard for...


"...there’s a lid for every saucepan."
- So, tell me your top three pieces of advice you'd give to others right now. - Wow… Are we doing some kind of rapid-fire question...


"...but he’s afraid that if he tells her, they won’t be able to stay friends anymore."
- My younger boy is 16 now. You know, he’s been good friends with this girl that he really likes, and he told me he didn’t know what to...


"I want to make money fast so I can retire my mom… She’s sacrificed a lot for me and our family."
- How old are you? - How old do you think I am? - You must be a few years older than me... so I’m guessing you were born in 2000? - Haha! You’re very sweet. So, I noticed you were reading. - Ahhh… yes. I want to be successful, so this book caught my interest. - I see. What does being successful mean to you? - I want to make lots of money and get rich quickly. - Interesting. Any reason it’s top of mind for you right now? - I want to make money fast so I can retire my mom… She’


Why can’t I let go of this negative energy?
It’s frustrating, isn’t it? We hear ‘let go’ all the time, but ironically, that phrase can be misleading, leaving us feeling stuck because we’re not sure how to let go of the energy we carry. But what if it’s not really about trying to let go at all? What we often forget is that energy isn’t an object. It’s not something we can simply throw away or turn off like a light switch. Energy doesn’t just disappear—it shifts. It transforms and can be transformed. Think of energy lik


How do I have faith in love again?
Isn’t it terrifying to ponder the 'what ifs'? “What if everything goes wrong? What if I’m not ready? What if I’m abandoned again? What if I fall out of love? What if I lose my freedom? What if we become codependent and lose our sense of identity? What if we actually don’t want the same things? What if I’m not good enough? What if I’m never good enough?” You long for happiness, but all you can hear is the chatter in your mind and the external voices telling you that love just


Is love worth fighting for?
Do you really need to fight? Love is intrinsic to you. When you think you need to fight for it, you subconsciously assume it exists outside of you. But if it lives outside of you, it might not be yours to fight for. The love you deserve is the kind that holds together, builds together, and grows together. Despite any external interference, it’s the kind of love that fights together. True love is not a competition. No winning or losing. It’s never forced—indeed, it can never b


How can I let go of someone I love?
Love, and you will let go. Think of it like breathing. If you keep holding onto the air and resist breathing out, you will suffocate. You need oxygen to stay alive, but you can’t survive by holding onto a breath forever. It’s the act of breathing in and out that keeps you alive. Inhale: you fill yourself with love. Exhale: you give that love the freedom to fly. Your mind convinces you that you want to be loved, and your heart whispers that you want to feel loved. But your s


Why would I want to feel again if feeling causes me pain?
I get it. Emotionally detaching helps us shield ourselves from what our mind convinces us are ‘unnecessary distractions’ so we can keep going. And that’s okay if you need to run away. That’s okay if you want to detach from the overwhelming feelings rising inside of you. There are times when it’s actually healthy to do so. As human beings, we’ve learned to numb our pain to survive, and being able to control our emotions is an incredible superpower. But you can’t keep ignoring


Will you be there for yourself when you’re down?
Will you be your own best friend and stay with your long sigh after a bad day? Will you hold yourself with grace? Will you listen to...


What if I don’t end up with someone I love?
But what if you do? What if you let go of the idea that it has to be a certain person, and instead embrace the belief that whoever you...


The best gift we can give to ourselves
You know, I believe the best gift we can give to ourselves is to embrace our wholeness. It may feel scary and even wrong when we let our...
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